As lunch time rolled around yesterday, my husband decided to make everyone sandwiches. What a great thing. He's always so helpful that way. Feeling a little guilty, I went into the kitchen to give him a hand and noticed he'd put the slices of bread on a cutting board that wasn't as clean as I would have liked it. It wasn't filthy, mind you, but I have a little "germaphobia" thing going on so I always sanitize the cutting boards before I use them. I quickly told him about the problem (as I saw it) and he got upset with me. Suddenly, the conversation wasn't about the bread or the cutting board, but about who was wrong and who was right. All kinds of past offenses wove their way into this heated discussion and before long I realized it was no long about who was wrong or right either. It was just BLAH, BLAH, BLAH! Nobody was listening and neither one of us was making any sense.
And then it hit me.
The real problem hadn't even made its way into the conversation. The REAL problem was accepting each other just the way we are, even if that means being picky about a stupid cutting board being perfectly clean. I like things clean. He's a guy. Enough said, right?
I needed to allow him to be who he was and he needed to allow me to be who I was, regardless of what that meant. Of course, this sparked all kinds of thoughts throughout the day about being myself and not giving in to demands people make on me. Who cares if I'm not like everyone else? Who cares if I do things differently? I happen to like ME just the way I am. I'm unique. I'm a rebel. I'm ME! Deal with it, world.
"Be Yourself. An original is always worth more than a copy." -unknown
How do you deal with people when they want you to change or think you're not GOOD ENOUGH? What makes you YOU?